- 5 Different Ways to Show Love and Improve Your Relationship
- The Love Language Quiz
- Differences in How Gen Z and Millennials Meet and Fall in Love
- Psychology of Love: 10 Studies Every Lover Should Know
- Psychology Studies About Love
(if any topic is too personal, feel free to pass by saying something like “I’d rather not say” )
- How have your ideas about love and romance changed over time?
- Do you have a significant other? If so, where did you meet him/her?
Why did you decide to date/marry them?
- What’s most important to you in a partner: appearance, money, personality, family background, …?
- How old were you when you went on your first date?
Where did you go? What did you do? Who did you go with?
- What kind of pressure or advice did you get from your parents about dating or getting married?
- What advice will you give to your children?
- Have your parents ever disapproved of any of your relationships?
- What was the most boring/interesting date you’ve ever been on?
- What is your ‘love language’? Your partner’s?
Words of affirmation, Acts of Service, Receiving Gifts, Quality time, Physical touch
- Are you comfortable saying ‘I love you’ to your partner? How often do you say it?
- How would you describe the different love you have for…. a partner, parents, siblings, friends, pets?
- At what age do you think it’s appropriate to start dating?
- What are the most important ingredients to maintaining a healthy, long-lasting relationship?
- How long should a couple date before they decide to get married?
(If you’re married, how long did you wait?)
- How important is getting married? Could you be (are you) happy staying single?
- How do you think dating, romance, and marriage are different in different countries?
- Do you believe in love at first sight? soulmates? love destiny? Have you ever experienced these?
- Describe your perfect date. (could be a 부부 date)
- Do you think it’s OK to live together before getting married?
- What are the biggest love and dating differences between you and your parents’ generations?
- Do you think it’s OK to kiss on a first date? How comfortable are you with PDA?
- Do you think it’s OK to ‘ghost’ someone? Have you ever done it? Has it happened to you?
- What do you think about dating apps? What’s the best way to meet people you want to date?
- Would you prefer to go out with a quiet or talkative person?
- What do you think about dating a friend’s ex-girlfriend or ex-boyfriend?
- Do you think it’s a good idea to cohabitate (live together) before deciding to get married?
- Do you think men and women can be ‘just friends’ with no romantic feelings?
- What is your favorite movie or song about love?
- Are anniversaries important? How would you feel if your partner forgot an anniversary or birthday?
- What are important communication skills when talking with your partner?
- If you are married, how was your wedding? Fun, stressful, amazing? Where did you go on your honeymoon?
- Any special experiences on Valentine’s Day? White Day? Black Day?
Questions to Ask on a Date
- Why did you and your last boy/girlfriend break up?
- Do you want to have children? How many? Why? How important is family to you?
- Of all the people you know, who has the best/worst relationship? Why?
- How do you deal with disagreements in a relationship? Avoidance or confrontation?
- What are the most important things you’re looking for in a significant other?
- Would you prefer to have a career, be a stay-at-home parent, or both?
- Describe your perfect date.
- Would you need/want to live with (or near) your parents after getting married?
- In an argument between your spouse and parent, whose side would you be on?
- What are your dating ‘red flags’ or ‘deal breakers’?
- How do you think husbands and wives should divide housework and childcare duties?
- How often do you want to meet/talk to/text your significant other?
- What are your biggest hopes and concerns about getting married?
Pre-marriage Questions from NPR’s LifeKit
- Is there anything you’re not willing to give up when you get married?
- How do you feel about your partner doing things (hobbies, travel, social meetings) without you?
- When you were growing up, how did your family handle conflict?
- What is the most you’d be willing to spend on…. shoes, a lamp, a watch, a car, etc?
- If we have children, will you get up at 3am to change diapers or skip a business meeting if our child is sick?
Finding out about your date’s hobbies and interests:
- What makes you happy/sad/angry? What makes you laugh?
- Are you more of a city or country person?
- How would your best friend describe you?
- What is your dream job? What are your career plans?
- What color best describes your personality?
- What are you most passionate about?
- What do you consider your best/worst attributes?
- When do you feel most like yourself?
- What did you do last weekend? What do you do for fun?
- What song(s) are you listening to these days?
- What are your favorite smells?
- What is the last movie you saw?
- IPhone or Samsung? Burger or pizza? Mountain or beach? Beer or Soju? Rice or noodles?
- Who is your hero or role model?
- What book are you reading at the moment?
- What is your favorite takeout meal?
- Do you like to travel? Where would you like to go? What is your favorite place on Earth?
- If you won the lottery how would you spend your winnings?
- What time in history would you have liked to be born in and why?
- What is the most adventurous thing you have ever done?
- Are you a night owl or an early bird?
- If you have friends coming for dinner what would you cook?
- In what ways are you weird?
- Abstinence (금욕) – The act of refraining from sexual activity.
Some people choose abstinence until they get married.
- Adore (좋아하다) – To love and admire someone deeply.
She adores her new puppy.
- Affection (애정) – A feeling of fondness or liking towards someone.
She shows her affection by hugging her children.
- Be on the rocks (위태롭다) – When a romantic relationship is experiencing difficulties or is about to end.
Their relationship is on the rocks due to frequent arguments.
- Chemistry (화학반응) – A strong mutual attraction or connection between two people.
They have great chemistry and always have a good time together.
- Cherish (소중히 여기다) – To hold something or someone dear and treat them with love and care.
She cherishes the necklace her grandmother gave her.
- Cohabitation (동거) – Living together as a romantic couple without being married.
They decided to try cohabitation before getting married.
- Deal breaker (탈락요인) – A problem or issue that leads to the end of a relationship.
Cheating is a deal breaker for many people in a romantic relationship.
- Flirt (농담하듯 말하다) – To show romantic interest in someone through playful behavior or conversation.
She likes to flirt with her crush by teasing him.
- Friends with benefits (친구 + 성적 관계) – A non-romantic relationship between two people who have sexual relations with each other.
They are friends with benefits and enjoy spending time together.
- Get hitched (결혼하다) – To get married.
They are planning to get hitched in the summer.
- Go through a rough patch (어려움을 겪다) – To experience a difficult period in a relationship.
They went through a rough patch after he lost his job.
- Hit on someone (관심을 보이다) – To show romantic or sexual interest in someone.
He hit on her by complimenting her appearance.
- Hook up (만나서 섹스하다) – To have a casual sexual encounter with someone.
They hooked up after meeting at a party.
- Libido (성욕) – A person’s sexual drive or desire.
Stress can sometimes affect a person’s libido.
- Lovey-dovey (사랑에 빠져 쓰다듬거리는) – Expressing a lot of love or affection in a very sentimental way.
They are always lovey-dovey and can’t keep their hands off each other.
- Lust (욕망) – A strong desire for sexual pleasure.
Lust can sometimes cloud a person’s judgment.
- Make out (키스하다) – To kiss passionately.
They made out in the back of the movie theater.
- Monogamous (일부 파트너에게만 충실한) – Being committed to one romantic partner at a time.
They have a monogamous relationship and are only dating each other.
- On again, off again (갈등하는) – A relationship that has frequent breakups and reconciliations.
They have an on-again, off-again relationship and it’s hard to keep up.
- One night stand (일회용 섹스) – A sexual encounter with someone that is not expected to lead to a long-term relationship.
She had a one-night stand with a stranger she met at a bar.
- PDA (공공연한 애정표현) – Public displays of affection.
They are not shy about showing PDA and often hold hands in public.
- Platonic (친절한) – A relationship that is not romantic or sexual in nature.
They have a platonic friendship and enjoy each other’s company.
- Polyamorous (다수 파트너와 관계를 가진) – Having multiple romantic or sexual partners at the same time with the consent of all parties involved.
They are in a polyamorous relationship and are seeing other people besides each other.
- Possessive (소유욕이 강한) – A behavior that involves wanting to control or own someone or something.
He was possessive of his girlfriend and didn’t like her spending time with other guys.
- Puppy love (어린애정) – An intense but often short-lived romantic infatuation that is typically experienced in adolescence.
They had a cute puppy love relationship in high school.
- Red flag (주의해야할 신호) – A warning sign or signal that something is not right in a relationship.
She noticed some red flags in her partner’s behavior and decided to talk to him about it.
- Significant other (중요한 인연) – A term used to refer to a person’s romantic partner.
She introduced her significant other to her parents for the first time.
- Spark (화끈한 느낌) – A strong attraction or connection between two people.
There was a spark between them from the moment they met.
- Stormy relationship (폭풍우 같은 인간관계) – A relationship that is characterized by frequent arguments and emotional turbulence.
Their stormy relationship was taking a toll on their mental health.
- Term of endearment (애칭) – A word or phrase used to express affection towards someone.
“Honey” is a term of endearment that couples often use for each other.
Examples: darling , love, pet , babe/baby, cutey pie, honey bunny, angel, sweetie, sweetheart, dear, sugar, hon
- Tie the knot (결혼하다) – To get married.
They decided to tie the knot after being in a long-term relationship.
- Tingly feeling (감촉적인 느낌) – A physical sensation of excitement or nervousness.
She felt a tingly feeling in her stomach when she saw her crush.
- To click (친해지다) – To have a strong connection or understanding with someone.
They clicked immediately and became good friends.
- To dump someone (씻어버리다) – To end a relationship with someone.
He decided to dump his girlfriend because they had grown apart.
- To have a crush (좋아하다) – To have a romantic interest in someone.
She has had a crush on him since they met in college.
- To have the hots for someone (섹시한 느낌을 받다) – To feel a strong physical attraction to someone.
She had the hots for the new guy in the office and couldn’t stop thinking about him
Love Saying & Quotations
Which of these sayings ‘ring true’? Which do you agree with or disagree with?
- True love comes quietly, without banners or flashing lights. If you hear bells, get your ears checked.
- A simple “I love you” means more than money.
- We are most alive when we’re in love.
- Love is an endless act of forgiveness.
- Love is friendship that has caught fire.
- I fell in love the way you fall asleep: slowly, and then all at once.
- “Love isn’t something natural. Rather it requires discipline, concentration, patience, faith, and the overcoming of narcissism. It isn’t a feeling, it is a practice.”
- “There are all kinds of reasons that you fall in love with one person rather than another: Timing is important. Proximity is important. Mystery is important.”
- “You know it’s love when all you want is that person to be happy, even if you’re not part of their happiness.”
- “Love is that condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own.”
- “I’m just a big believer in ‘you must love yourself before you can love anybody else’ and I think for me that breeds the most inspired relationships.”
- “Love makes your soul crawl out from its hiding place.”
- Love does not dominate; it cultivates.
- You don’t marry someone you can live with — you marry someone you cannot live without.
- I love being married. It’s so great to find one special person you want to annoy for the rest of your life.
- Some love stories aren’t epic novels. Some are short stories, but that doesn’t make them any less filled with love.
- Never love anyone who treats you like you’re ordinary.
- You know that tingly little feeling you get when you like someone? That is your common sense leaving your body.
- I want someone who will look at me the same way I look at chocolate cake.
- I love you with all my belly. I would say heart, but my belly is bigger.
- Love; A temporary insanity curable by marriage.
- I love you more than coffee, but please don’t make me prove it.
- Sometimes I look at my boyfriend and think… Damn, he is one lucky man.
- Forever is a long time, make sure you spend it with someone who makes you laugh!
- The four most important words in any marriage: “I’ll do the dishes”.
- Love at first sight is possible, but it pays to take a second look.
- What’s the difference between a boyfriend and a husband? About 10kg.